Resources For All
At Vilomah Solace I understand that the death of a child is a tragedy that affects so many people. With that in mind I created this section to offer support and direction to as many people as possible without losing focus on those at the heart of the storm, the child's parents.
Grief Tool Kit
In the Media
Testimonials
Grief Tool Kit
A grief tool kits is a collection of resources that can be dipped in and out of in order to help support yourself, or anyone else who is grieving.
How to guides
Frequently Asked Questions
How to Guides
Here you will find links to our FREE pdf guides based around different aspects of grief support. Click on the guide you are interested in and complete the form to permit us to send you the file. Thank you for reaching out for help for yourself or for others.
Guides for Supporters
Guides for Grievers
Guides for Professionals
Click the link below to allow us to send our guide
"10 Ways to Support Bereaved Parents"
This guide is packed full of practical information as to how to help when a tragedy like this happens. It has been written based on real lived experience of what helps and what doesn't.
If your child has just died then my heart is with you sending you the love and strength to get though the next few moments. I have written a guide, based on real life experience of losing a child, one that gives ideas of things to ask an undertaker that no one ever told me but would have offered so much help. Please allow me to send you my guide
"5 Things you didn't know you could ask an Undertaker"
The information inside will help in this moment and I will be ready to support you later on if needed.
Are you a funeral celebrant who is thinking of working with parent's whose children have just died? If so our guide
"How to Support "
The Guides will also be available shortly for HR departments looking to support Employees and their Team's when an Employee's child dies as we know this can create instability and confusion in a team.
Vilomah Solace - In The Media
The death of a child is still very much a taboo subject in the UK and because of this many Vilomah (grieving parents) end up feeling lost and isolated and as if their child meant nothing to others and fear their child is no longer remembered. Vilomah are often shunned by others who don't know what to say or how to support them in their grief. This created a cascade of secondary losses, that while not as painful as the death of their child, can still be really upsetting and disrupt the life of the grieving parent at a time when support is so desperately needed.
Featured in Podcasts
Listen on Spotify to the following podcast interviews to find our more about my work and the real life of being a Vilomah
Mindful Mums Podcast
The World After; What life looks like as a Vilomah
https://open.spotify.com/episode/5AB5K1Rt3TEkWVoOtYieh1?si=b37a18f15ff84b80
Vilomah Solace Group
Vilomah Solace Hearth
( Paid Closed Membership )
Coming Soon
Grief Support Box Page
In the Press
If you are interested in featuring my work, grief support boxes of any aspect of my grief journey for an article, please do reach out. I am always happy to give interviews to help demystify what life after the loss of a child is really like.
Please reach out to me on our contact page.
Other Media
I am available for public speaking engagements. Should you wish to book me to give a talk then please let me know your groups requirements and how you feel my expertise will best support them and I am happy to work with you to develop a suitable talk for them.
Please reach out to me on our contact page.
Vilomah Solace
The home of bespoke grief support, created to help bridge the gap
between grievers and those who wish to support them.
1 Year Bereaved Parent Support Package
Grief Support Box
Kavella, Bishops Tawton Devon EX32 0AP : :
Vilomah ( Noun) - A parent who is navigating, life after the death of their child.
"For you, dear griever, your grief is the worst." ~ David Kessler